I’ve been thinking about this topic for a long time and I thought it might be fitting to post about it since this blog IS called “Like Like No One Else.” And it all really started from us wanting to become debt-free and not be like most Americans who use credit cards on a daily basis, have consumer debt and live paycheck to paycheck.
But I’m finding that we Live Like No One Else in many other areas too. One of them being how we choose to raise our children in regards to today’s electronic toys.
FIRST, please do take the 5 minutes to watch this video. It is AWESOME. I could never convey into words what the creators of this video did…but it sums up my feelings exactly!
We live in a very affluent area (in the older part, but we still have million dollar homes a couple houses down from us and across the street). My hubby loves this area as he grew up here. It’s a couple of houses away from his parents. It’s super close to the highways and can get us to places far away very quickly.
It may be a beautiful area to live in, but I would be happy moving. Besides the real estate taxes getting out of hand, there is a lot of peer pressure to drive nice, big expensive cars, have nice expensive clothes, have big beautiful houses, the best and most recent toys and electronics, to eat out every single day, to run crazy from driving your kids around from one activity to the next (to name a few). NONE of which we want to participate in.
We have one TV in the family room and I’m the only one that has a smartphone. My oldest son, who just turned 15 does have a phone. We got him the phone for Christmas in 8th grade (when he was 13) as we felt that we needed another phone since we got rid of our land line. My nephews had cell phones since they were like 8 or 9, When he started high school last fall, he started texting a little bit and I didn’t like seeing the extra charges. I cancelled that feature on his phone. He came to me and told me that he needed texting as some of his teachers used it to communicate with their students. I told him that I would enable that feature on his phone as long as he pays the $10/month for it. The was the last I heard about it.
It’s probably easier for me as I have 3 boys and they seem to have no problem actually calling and talking to their friends on the phone. Neither my 12 yo or my 15yo are on any of the Social Media sites either (no Facebook, no Instagram, etc.) How do I know. Well they have laptops, but they stay in the family room and each one has Safety Eyes on it. So we can monitor the usage of their online activities.
I do understand it would be harder and that there is more pressure for girls and if we had girls, they still would not have smartphones (here’s a great article if your kids do have them: Some rules to follow when your kids have smartphones and To My 13-Year-Old, An iPhone Contract From Your Mom, With Love). But WE, as parents, need to make decisions that are in the best interest of our children. We can’t have today’s society raising our kids and telling them and us what is and what isn’t okay.
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. ~Jiddu Krishnamurti
My hubby was at a family party last Saturday (I was out of town) and said all the kids were like zombies (some of the parents too)..sitting there with their faces glued to the screens. Very anti-social. My hubby said to me, “Smartphones should be treated like drugs and alcohol..it’s such a strong addiction.” I agree whole-heartedy!
You might think that we are mean parents. An really, I don’t care. God gave us these children to raise, love and protect and that’s what we’re going to do!
You may disagree with me, yet I cannot think of any GOOD reason for children to have their own smartphones. What do you think?